Infertility and Acceptance: Making Peace with Every Path

Most infertility coaches promise to “help you get your baby”- through manifestation, positive thinking, eliminating stress, supplements, diet changes, or switching to non-toxic products.

My approach is different: fresh, realistic, and rooted in existential truth. I’m here to help you find peace, life satisfaction, and joy regardless of how your IVF journey ends.

Here’s the truth no one likes to say out loud: each IVF cycle ends in a live birth only 10–50% of the time, depending on age. That means for some women, IVF will not end in becoming a mother. There are no guarantees. That was my story- four years of IVF treatments and nothing to show for it.

I know that sounds dire, but I want to let you in on the secret I learned as I began to accept a childfree life after years of failed IVF: life is beautiful and hard if you have a baby, and life is beautiful and hard if you don’t have a baby. 

After years of transition, healing, and personal growth work following my final IVF transfer, I conceived naturally and completely unexpectedly. And I’m here to tell you again: life is beautiful and hard if you have a baby, and life is beautiful and hard if you don’t have a baby.

Being attached to external outcomes- whether it’s how your career unfolds, if you meet the perfect partner, if your offer gets accepted on your dream home, or if you become a mother- is dangerous. Real peace and freedom come from within. They come from making the most of what the universe gives us, from acceptance, from surrender. Our serenity comes from the inside out, not the outside in.

My approach can support you whether your infertility treatments are successful or not. I can help you feel less attached to the outcome of your IVF journey. Because when you trust your resilience, adaptability, and ability to create a life that works for you, you no longer need a baby to be the sole source of your happiness.

It’s important to say: this process is only possible if we make time and space to process your grief first. Grief for the effortless conception you imagined. Grief for pregnancy losses, for repeated bad news and heartbreaking phone calls from the fertility clinic. Grief for changes in your relationship, your body, your mental health, and the dreams you held for your future. The only way out is through.

As you move through today, notice one tiny thing that brings you ease- a warm mug in your hands, sunlight through the window, your favorite song. Let that be proof that your life can hold both pain and beauty at the same time.